Archive for the ‘Your Own Spirit’ Category

Being a spiritual leader or light-worker can imply a number of things.  It can mean that you wish to use the gifts you have discovered and which are being developed within yourself towards a spiritual career.  Or it can simply mean that, trusting the spiritual path you are on, you use your understanding informally in your day-to-day life to be a light for others.

I would like to share with you the teachings from the Spirit Guides of one of my clients, taken from a reading I recently did on finding his spiritual career path.  Just a week before this reading, I was commenting on how elusive the words are to describe how one becomes more spiritual.  As Spirit often does, They soon found the means to answer my question. Here is the eloquent wisdom They shared:

“The key to becoming a spiritual leader is to grow the trust within yourself, meaning that you have a solid connection to the Spirit World and can trust it fully and at all times.  The main focus becomes not on what your mind is telling you or what society thinks is right; the only compass that guides you is your bridge to the Spirit side of life and this could smaller-bigstock-Truly-Believe-86704874relate to your guides, your higher self, angelic beings or The Great Spirit.  It is not an easy path to follow, at least in the beginning when you are still learning how things work.  Putting yourself in the hands of another is not something that comes easily to you humans.  The trust is built little by little until one day you recognize that you are fully being guided by Spirit in all you do.

Let us talk about the ego at this juncture.  As you progress along the spiritual path there is a shedding of the old you – the old ways of thinking and being.  This is exactly as it should be.  Nothing worth retaining is lost in the process.  What is lost is the part of you that rebels against The Great Spirit and wants to go your own way without a regard for the bigger picture of life.  As the ego is shed the primary focus becomes a drive to bring more light and love to the world and to those you encounter.  Your goals and The Great Spirit’s become one and the same.  And yet in all of this you retain your individuality, that special spark that makes you who you are – unique yet one of the whole.

As your connection with Spirit solidifies what you will notice is a gradual falling away from unhelpful thoughts because the ego is receding and the Divine in you is growing.  It is hard to see day by day but those around you begin to notice a difference in how you see the world.  If you, yourself, take a moment to think back to earlier times you will recognize just how far you have come.  Even now if you do this you will see the difference.  Is not your wish to bring light into the world even now?  If your answer is Yes, and we know that it is, you can be assured that you are already well on your path to attainment.  It is the practical side in you that is really asking ‘From where does my next paycheque come?’  This is an entirely different matter.  Let us speak to that now.

We are not able to materialize for you a career until we know that what it is you are truly seeking has been solidified in your own mind and is in alignment with The Great Spirit.  We need to speak to that last part.  It is not The Great Spirit’s intention that you should be given certain tasks to complete or directives to follow.  This is not the way of the Divine.  However, it needs to be true that what you choose to do fits within the bigger plan which is afoot to bring healing and rebirth to the human species.  This is why a partnership with your spirit guides is the best path forward.  We, by extension, are your gateway to the Divine.  We will guide you in what you seek so that it aligns perfectly within the greater plan.  The freedom which is available to you is limitless but you cannot set your own course to get there.  We are the ones who decide on the details in order to bring the opportunities to you.  You set the ‘what’ and we take care of the ‘when and where’.  But if you are not hearing us then how can we guide you?”


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I have to say that I never liked that Whitney Houston song.  I know others enjoy it but to me it didn’t resonate.  In fact, I can remember years ago being in a meditation group where the facilitator led us through a visualization to meet our self as a young child.  I was immediately resistant to the idea, and remember in my mind adamantly refusing to take part.  That was a real revelation to me – why did I have such a strong negative reaction to myself?  I didn’t think of myself as someone with self-love issues, though like most people I could definitely make a list of things I didn’t like about Sandra.

Spirit has taught me a lot on this journey, and sometimes I don’t even know how They have done it and how I managed to get to where I am now.  I know that as I pursued the spiritual path something began to shift inside me.  It was very gradual which makes it hard to describe for another person.  But I will lay it out as best I can.

At this point I need to describe another meditation-related example.  In a different meditation circle I later attended we learned to close our eyes and visualize the spiritual candle-2038736-pixabaylight within us.  When I did this exercise the first time, in my mind’s eye I saw the tiniest candle flame flickering.  As the months went on and my spiritual unfoldment continued, the light I clairvoyantly saw got larger and larger.  Now, years later when I engage in this exercise, what I see within is akin to a supernova – the radiance that extends from me is virtually limitless!  A pretty big change, huh?  Maybe you are asking ‘Did the change in that clairvoyant image actually reflect a change in Sandra?’  It most certainly did!

Some part of the change came from a growing understanding that it was okay to be me, whoever ‘me’ was (which I am still learning).  Another part came from being shown by Spirit how much I could and already was helping others, whether informally though my guidance to friends and colleagues, or formally in client sessions.  Either way, I was using the information I was getting from Spirit to assist others which fed my passion.  Talk about a self-esteem booster!  Thirdly, I realized that if I was experiencing strong emotions in a situation it was because I was justifiable reacting to ‘a wrong’ (that is, I wasn’t just being a baby).  Having My Guides confirm this and support me in these experiences was completely empowering and a true eye-opener.

So in a nutshell what I have learned from the Spirit World is that:

  • It’s okay…more than thatSpirit wants you and asks you – to take care of yourself first before extending yourself to others. It’s like the oxygen masks that drop down in an airplane if the cabin depressurizes. Put your mask on before you try to help another. Translation: if you need to take care of yourself, do so, and don’t feel guilty in saying No to someone. In the end you are helping them by keeping yourself strong to be available to them when the time is right.
  • You must learn to find and live your own truth, despite the values and opinions of friends, family and society. This is the great journey – to become who you truly are and express it with joy and without apology.
  • You are powerful and important – to yourself, to the Spirit World and to the God of your own understanding. You have abilities, interests, and experiences that are exclusively you which you are uniquely poised to offer the world.  Do you know what they are?  If not, don’t you want to discover them?

If you meditate (and I hope you do) I encourage you to use the candle flame visualization and watch as your spiritual light grows.

And how do I feel about that Whitney Houston song now?  Well, I can say that I finally ‘get it’ and I couldn’t agree more!

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Ever since I began this journey I have wondered how I might simply summarize for another person how I have gotten from ‘A’ to ‘B’ these past years. How would I explain how drastically my beliefs, understanding and approach to life has shifted, in order for other people to potentially benefit from my experience?

First I need to define what ‘A’ and ‘B’ are in terms who I was and who I now am – let’s call them ‘Person A’ (the previous Sandra) and ‘Person B’ (the current Sandra).

Person A:

  • Had no awareness of the spiritual side of life and was focused on the tangible world
  • Made decisions based on reason without any understanding of intuition
  • Was task-oriented and busy accomplishing, and so was uneasy if idle too long
  • Could not seem to meditate despite several attempts because she wouldn’t wait for her mind to slow down…sound familiar?
  • Thought that life was random and scary
  • Didn’t believe there was any particular purpose to life
  • Believed in some form of Higher Power, but
  • Figured we could never really know the answers from this side of life

Then, unexpectedly, my husband passed to Spirit and in the devastation that was my life, I said to The Powers That Be:

  1. I have nothing left so if you want me, please use me, and
  2. Show me truth in EVERYTHING…about myself, about my life, about the world.

Little did I know that in that one moment I changed my entire life and destiny.  So began the most incredible transformation which I am only appreciating years later.  Fast-forward to today and let me describe Person B.

Person B

  • Endeavors to look at every aspect of life from the spiritual perspective – my own soul growth and spiritually assisting those around me
  • Makes decisions largely from intuition and Spirit guidance
  • Realizes that ‘tasks’ aren’t that important and enjoys the quiet as times to refresh her own spirit and connect with the Spirit World
  • Meditates or otherwise connects with Spirit every day
  • Recognizes that nothing happens by chance; life unfolds based on natural law and we create our own future with our choices and if we allow it, in partnership with Spirit
  • Knows that she came here for a specific purpose (so did you!) and is finally on that path
  • Feels that she has unearthed answers to the many questions of life she had before her ‘awakening’ and is now in touch with that Higher Power

If any of this appeals to/resonates with you, I encourage you to make the same commitment to learning the truth about yourself and life, and working for a higher purpose.  Where does one start you may ask?

  • Begin a regular practice of meditating or in some way consciously connecting with Spirit. Meditation brings peace, insights, and often experiences with Spirit. Going into that peaceful space regularly brings about the most amazing changes over time and is the key to your unfoldment.
  • Perform a personal self-inspection and confront your less appealing qualities and actions (Caroline Myss, in her book Entering the Castle, calls these the reptiles) in order to put them behind you. This is not an easy or uplifting process – no wonder so few people embrace the spiritual path and look truthfully at themselves!
  • Read about spiritual topics; whatever speaks to you at that particular moment in time. Reading is also a relaxing endeavor that takes you into that peaceful space.
  • Grow your self-awareness and monitor your thoughts.  Thoughts are energy and are powerful so focus on the thoughts that make you and others strong.
  • As much as possible try to remain in the moment, not the past or the future. Focus consciously on the experiences you enjoy and savour each moment.
  • Ask Spirit to bring you like-minded individuals and look for opportunities to find new friends with whom you can discuss your spiritual journey.  Meetup Groups are an excellent way to find those in your community who are interested in the same things. Spiritual conferences such as I Can Do It and Celebrate Your Life are wonderful ways to expand your horizons.
  • Build your connection to Your Guides and your intuition or higher self.  Talk to Your Guides and be open to the different ways in which They may answer you.  Ask yourself how you truly feel about a situation and feel out the answer.
  • “Life begins at the edge of your comfort zone.” As you step outside your comfort zone, amazing things happen, and you will become more confident and comfortable with the new and uncertain.
  • Allow Spirit to help you begin to see the world in new ways.

What are the other little ways you begin to change once Spirit’s influence grows in your life?


  • You become a kinder, gentler person – with yourself and others.
  • You lose the need to be critical of people and situations and make judgements about them, because you realize everyone’s journey is different and you cannot possibly understand what they have been through.
  • You become happier within yourself and others notice this and are drawn to your (spiritual) light.
  • You express your love more freely, whether it is showing those around you by doing little kindnesses for them, or even the love and care you express for your pets and other living things.
  • You gravitate to being in nature.
  • Your mind slows down and is no longer as busy – not just in meditation but all day long.
  • You flow better with the rhythm of life, meaning you adapt to changes in your plans and unexpected events.
  • You are grateful for all you have been given, and humbled by the beauty and magnitude of the spiritual plan and your place in it.

I hope you are well underway in your spiritual journey.  If not, I encourage you to take that bold step to a wonderful new you.

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How many times have you had what seemed like an incredible set-back happen to you?  What did you feel in that moment?  Despair?  Anger?  Frustration?  Hopelessness?  What if I told you that those ‘set backs’ were not random, not just some luck of the draw?  What if they were orchestrated for a specific purpose that you cannot recognize at that moment?

Let me give you an example.  You are at the office, working diligently on some project that feels very important and to which you devote your full attention, as usual.  And then suddenly, for no apparent reason, disaster strikes.  Perhaps a lengthy email you were about to send vanishes or the file you are working on becomes corrupt and you have no backup.  Maybe it’s worse than that; maybe errors you made on a project cost you something – a promotion or even your job.

Would it help you to know that, even though it may feel like life is out of control, there is nothing random about it?  There is a bigger picture here being played out for your highest good even when you don’t realize it.  You have heard the expression about looking for the silver lining, trying to find something good in what is seemingly ‘bad’.  What if the silver lining were not just a way to see the situation as favourable – what if it were the whole point of the occurrence, and the seeming ‘tragedy’ of the situation really isn’t that?

These sorts of ‘re-directs’ (as I like to call them) from Spirit happen every day to individuals who call it bad luck.  But an ‘unfortunate event’ is often what it takes to push small-bigstock-Diverging-Paths-52045930us in a direction we would never otherwise have taken but are meant to.  This new direction is there to lead you to brilliant opportunities, your true potential and the fulfilment you desire.  Most times we cannot see this at the time; we only know, for example, that we are suddenly out of a job and have a mortgage to pay.  It is in hindsight that we see that losing that job was timed perfectly for a new opportunity that presents itself, or to push us to take a chance and start that business we have dreamed of.

I am sure these re-directs have happened more times than I realize.  But certainly it happened to me twenty-odd years ago when being passed up for a key promotion was the push I needed to leave that career and take a direction I might otherwise not have considered.  Was that a push from Spirit?  Absolutely.  Did it prove to be exactly the right course of action for me?  Definitely.  But it sure didn’t feel wonderful at the time.

So the next time something ‘bad’ happens I encourage you, firstly, not to be hasty in applying that label, and then to dig deeper for what larger canvass is being painted by the events in your life.  What new adventure or opportunity for growth is awaiting you?

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What is belief?  You humans think that to believe is to know something for certain but we say to you that belief is much more than that.  Belief involves knowing in your heart when something is true.  This is much different than knowing with the mind.  The mind wants to question everything; wants proof.  The heart says “I do not need to be shown.  I feel the truth of the matter in my bones and that is enough for me.”

Let us give you this example.  When a young baby cries and the mother says “I know what is wrong.  My baby is hungry” you may say that this is a matter of the mind of the mother knowing the patterns of the child and this can be true also.  But more often it is a knowingness on the part of the mother or what you call mother’s intuition.  Mother’s intuition is nothing more than the soul of the mother touching the soul of the infant.  You do this with each other all the time but do not recognize it.  Here is another example.  You think of a person and then the phone rings and it is them.  These things do not equate to a knowing with the mind but to a knowing with the soul.  Your spirit is much stronger than you think; it knows things you cannot possibly know by any other means.

We tell you these things so that you begin to pay attention to the little details that come to you.  Do not dismiss them.  Encourage them.  If you find that you have an ability to sense the emotions of others you may be an empath; one who absorbs the energy of others to read their mental state.  You must be careful not to do so unawares and take on their emotions as your own.

Belief and your intuitive senses are different sides of the same coin.  If you believe, you will continue to develop your intuitive senses, and likewise, as your connection to Spirit and your intuition strengthens, so does your belief in the reality of the unseen world – what you cannot perceive with your human senses.

In this way what first seemed incredible and impossible becomes the norm.  Knowing more than what others know becomes your way of life.  Soon you find that you solve problems and plot your way forward not with the head but with the heart.  Life becomes a flow of doing what feels right in any given minute whether it is what you had planned or not.  Can you live like this?  Can you truly put yourself in the hands of your own spirit and the spirit of those around you to be guided in an unseen manner?  This is our challenge to you.

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Many of you will have struggled, from time to time, with whether your life is a fait accompli or an evolving work in progress.  Do you wonder if you really have control, or if all the shots are decided by someone – or something – else?  Do we really come into this world free to live the life we want, or were those decisions already made for us, our lives playing out in some pre-determined way?

What if I told you it is a little bit of both?  Yes, you had a plan for yourself for this life; things you wanted to experience and accomplish and learn.  But you had no set way to do this.  You came to this world like a child to a playground, open to experiencing and in love with life.  Then the world told you you needed to be like this or like that.  “Be responsible, get a job, earn a good living.”  But what if your life was meant to be so much more than that?  What if the playground is the way life was meant to be?  What if your fondest dreams could become reality and you could live a life that makes your heart sing?

It begins by tapping into your own spirit – who you really are.  I am not talking about the persona you have carried throughout your life or how other people see you.  I am referring to your true essence – who you are inside.

“And how do I find this true essence?” you ask.  It is far simpler than you may think.  Go back to a time that you experienced pure joy or pure love.  What did you really feel in that instant?  Freedom?  Excitement?  That you were truly alive?  And what were the circumstances that led to that moment of illumination?  Were you about to take a leap into the beyond, to try something radically different that you had always wanted to experience?  Or maybe you realized the impact you had had on another person’s life, for the better.  Try to re-capture those memories and really immerse yourself in them.  How did they make you feel?  What was it about the experience that brought your soul to life?  Figuring this out is the first step to making your dreams a reality.  Once you begin to concretely define what motivates and energizes you, you can begin to take steps toward it.

Still not sure exactly what that is?  Then try the reverse of defining what it is not.  Make a mental list of what you do, and don’t, want in the next stage of your life’s journey.  Your Guides know what is in your heart – you do not need to define it for Them, only for yourself to clarify your vision.  Then ask the Universe to help you get there.  Don’t be surprised if opportunities begin to present themselves to you.  Be alert.  Be diligent.  Do not miss a chance to experience what has been offered to you, as this will help you better define where your passions lie.  And you don’t need to see each step of the plan forward.  All you need to do is trust that what you need for your new life will be brought to you in the proper time, in the proper way.

And what happens next?  The Universe begins to unfold as it should.  People, places and opportunities are put in your path, seemingly effortlessly.  Your soul feels more at peace, as it begins to come into its own.  And life takes the most exciting and unexpected turns that you could never have foreseen.  Every day becomes an adventure.

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