What is a Medium? A blog from My Guides

Many of you probably think of a medium as someone like me – that person you go to to hear from Your Guides or your deceased loved ones.  This is certainly the most common interpretation.  But what if I told you that you, too, are a medium?  Would that surprise you?

Mediumship is so much more than paying a person to give you messages.  Mediumship is truly about your connection to the Spirit World.  What connection you say?  “I don’t know how to communicate with Spirit!  That is just for people with ‘the gift’.”  But nothing could be further from the truth.  You are ALL connected to Spirit, every day of your lives.  You just haven’t learned how to perceive it…how to truly work with it…work with us.

We influence you on a regular basis, though you may not be aware of it.  How do we do this?  Simple.  By merging our Spirit with yours, to suggest certain courses of action to you as an alternative to consider – one we know will benefit you if you follow our direction.  We do not seek to control you – that is the furthest thing from our minds.  Rather, we remember what it is you planned for yourself when you entered this life.  You, on the other hand, do not.  So our role is only to point the way to you, with little signs and inspirations that if you follow them, will help keep you on the path you have chosen.

What are these little signs you may ask?  They are many and varied.  We may send someone to you to deliver the information you need to hear.  We may attract into your life the people who can help you with your next step.  We may send a book or a teacher or a coach your way.  We may send you inspirations through your dreams.  There are so many ways that we can reach out to you through those you come in contact with.  Have you not had the experience of hearing just what you needed to hear from someone, at exactly the right time?  We made that happen, on your behalf.  We work tirelessly for your benefit every day and all the time, even when you do not see yet what it is we are creating for you.

The reverse is also the case.  Do you know that you are an ambassador for the Spirit World?  It is true.  Just as easily as we influence you to take a course of action, we can also put our thoughts and our words in your mind to assist another.  We do this all the time as well.  We use your love, your compassion, your knowledge of the other person and what they are facing in order to deliver to them the message they need to hear at the time.  They are your words but they are also ours.  We become one in our desire to assist that individual and make a difference in their life.

Does this excite you?  Do you realize how important you are to us?  …to the big picture of the world that is unfolding around you?  We could not do it without you.  You are integral to the plan.  You are important to us, and we seek to know you better and work more fully through you.  All we need is your permission.  All we want is for you to remain open to our influence, open to being a force to assist others and sharing your light and love.  We will do the rest.

With love,
Your Spirit Team

What is the Spiritual Path?

Ever since I began this journey I have wondered how I might simply summarize for another person how I have gotten from ‘A’ to ‘B’ these past years. How would I explain how drastically my beliefs, understanding and approach to life has shifted, in order for other people to potentially benefit from my experience?

First I need to define what ‘A’ and ‘B’ are in terms who I was and who I now am – let’s call them ‘Person A’ (the previous Sandra) and ‘Person B’ (the current Sandra).

Person A:

  • Had no awareness of the spiritual side of life and was focused on the tangible world
  • Made decisions based on reason without any understanding of intuition
  • Was task-oriented and busy accomplishing, and so was uneasy if idle too long
  • Could not seem to meditate despite several attempts because she wouldn’t wait for her mind to slow down…sound familiar?
  • Thought that life was random and scary
  • Didn’t believe there was any particular purpose to life
  • Believed in some form of Higher Power, but
  • Figured we could never really know the answers from this side of life

Then, unexpectedly, my husband passed to Spirit and in the devastation that was my life, I said to The Powers That Be:

  1. I have nothing left so if you want me, please use me, and
  2. Show me truth in EVERYTHING…about myself, about my life, about the world.

Little did I know that in that one moment I changed my entire life and destiny.  So began the most incredible transformation which I am only appreciating years later.  Fast-forward to today and let me describe Person B.

Person B

  • Endeavors to look at every aspect of life from the spiritual perspective – my own soul growth and spiritually assisting those around me
  • Makes decisions largely from intuition and Spirit guidance
  • Realizes that ‘tasks’ aren’t that important and enjoys the quiet as times to refresh her own spirit and connect with the Spirit World
  • Meditates or otherwise connects with Spirit every day
  • Recognizes that nothing happens by chance; life unfolds based on natural law and we create our own future with our choices and if we allow it, in partnership with Spirit
  • Knows that she came here for a specific purpose (so did you!) and is finally on that path
  • Feels that she has unearthed answers to the many questions of life she had before her ‘awakening’ and is now in touch with that Higher Power

If any of this appeals to/resonates with you, I encourage you to make the same commitment to learning the truth about yourself and life, and working for a higher purpose.  Where does one start you may ask?

  • Begin a regular practice of meditating or in some way consciously connecting with Spirit. Meditation brings peace, insights, and often experiences with Spirit. Going into that peaceful space regularly brings about the most amazing changes over time and is the key to your unfoldment.
  • Perform a personal self-inspection and confront your less appealing qualities and actions (Caroline Myss, in her book Entering the Castle, calls these the reptiles) in order to put them behind you. This is not an easy or uplifting process – no wonder so few people embrace the spiritual path and look truthfully at themselves!
  • Read about spiritual topics; whatever speaks to you at that particular moment in time. Reading is also a relaxing endeavor that takes you into that peaceful space.
  • Grow your self-awareness and monitor your thoughts.  Thoughts are energy and are powerful so focus on the thoughts that make you and others strong.
  • As much as possible try to remain in the moment, not the past or the future. Focus consciously on the experiences you enjoy and savour each moment.
  • Ask Spirit to bring you like-minded individuals and look for opportunities to find new friends with whom you can discuss your spiritual journey.  Meetup Groups are an excellent way to find those in your community who are interested in the same things. Spiritual conferences such as I Can Do It and Celebrate Your Life are wonderful ways to expand your horizons.
  • Build your connection to Your Guides and your intuition or higher self.  Talk to Your Guides and be open to the different ways in which They may answer you.  Ask yourself how you truly feel about a situation and feel out the answer.
  • “Life begins at the edge of your comfort zone.” As you step outside your comfort zone, amazing things happen, and you will become more confident and comfortable with the new and uncertain.
  • Allow Spirit to help you begin to see the world in new ways.

What are the other little ways you begin to change once Spirit’s influence grows in your life?

  • You become a kinder, gentler person – with yourself and others.
  • You lose the need to be critical of people and situations and make judgements about them, because you realize everyone’s journey is different and you cannot possibly understand what they have been through.
  • You become happier within yourself and others notice this and are drawn to your (spiritual) light.
  • You express your love more freely, whether it is showing those around you by doing little kindnesses for them, or even the love and care you express for your pets and other living things.
  • You gravitate to being in nature.
  • Your mind slows down and is no longer as busy – not just in meditation but all day long.
  • You flow better with the rhythm of life, meaning you adapt to changes in your plans and unexpected events.
  • You are grateful for all you have been given, and humbled by the beauty and magnitude of the spiritual plan and your place in it.

I hope you are well underway in your spiritual journey.  If not, I encourage you to take that bold step to a wonderful new you.

Tragedy… or a New Trajectory? (Blog inspired by My Guides)

How many times have you had what seemed like an incredible set-back happen to you?  What did you feel in that moment?  Despair?  Anger?  Frustration?  Hopelessness?  What if I told you that those ‘set backs’ were not random, not just some luck of the draw?  What if they were orchestrated for a specific purpose that you cannot recognize at that moment?

Let me give you an example.  You are at the office, working diligently on some project that feels very important and to which you devote your full attention, as usual.  And then suddenly, for no apparent reason, disaster strikes.  Perhaps a lengthy email you were about to send vanishes or the file you are working on becomes corrupt and you have no backup.  Maybe it’s worse than that; maybe errors you made on a project cost you something – a promotion or even your job.

Would it help you to know that, even though it may feel like life is out of control, there is nothing random about it?  There is a bigger picture here being played out for your highest good even when you don’t realize it.  You have heard the expression about looking for the silver lining, trying to find something good in what is seemingly ‘bad’.  What if the silver lining were not just a way to see the situation as favourable – what if it were the whole point of the occurrence, and the seeming ‘tragedy’ of the situation really isn’t that?

These sorts of ‘re-directs’ (as I like to call them) from Spirit happen every day to individuals who call it bad luck.  But an ‘unfortunate event’ is often what it takes to push us in a direction we would never otherwise have taken but are meant to.  This new direction is there to lead you to brilliant opportunities, your true potential and the fulfilment you desire.  Most times we cannot see this at the time; we only know, for example, that we are suddenly out of a job and have a mortgage to pay.  It is in hindsight that we see that losing that job was timed perfectly for a new opportunity that presents itself, or to push us to take a chance and start that business we have dreamed of.

I am sure these re-directs have happened more times than I realize.  But certainly it happened to me twenty-odd years ago when being passed up for a key promotion was the push I needed to leave that career and take a direction I might otherwise not have considered.  Was that a push from Spirit?  Absolutely.  Did it prove to be exactly the right course of action for me?  Definitely.  But it sure didn’t feel wonderful at the time.

So the next time something ‘bad’ happens I encourage you, firstly, not to be hasty in applying that label, and then to dig deeper for what larger canvass is being painted by the events in your life.  What new adventure or opportunity for growth is awaiting you?

Angels and Archangels – Really???

If you have this response to the idea that there are angels and archangels you aren’t alone. In fact, that was my reaction just a couple of years ago.

Sure, I was on the spiritual path and was coming to understand about My Spirit Guides. But angels? Like those in TV programs and fairy tales??? That’s where my belief reached its limit.

I remember attending the I Can Do It Conference in Toronto in May 2012 and enjoying the many speakers covering topics like mediumship, growth of your own spirit, manifesting your dreams and the like. But when it came to Doreen Virtue’s talk on the archangels my mind dismissed the concept and I tuned out. I couldn’t even sit through the remainder of the session so I wandered out to kill time at the Hay House bookstore.

Months later I had a few encounters here and there that made me wonder if I had dismissed the concept prematurely. After all, I believe in Spirit Guides so how can I arbitrarily draw the line at angels and archangels and say that “Now that is crazy”? One development was waking up one morning to find a beautiful, several inch long white feather beside my bed. Another was actually being contacted by them – with words – the way I am with My Spirit Guides. Even my spiritual teacher had told me that I have a connection with the angelic realm and ascended masters, and though I bought the books, at the time they didn’t resonate with me.

Then just this past June I was guided to my bookshelf to pick up Sunny Dawn Johnston’s Invoking the Archangels: A Nine-Step Process to Heal Your Body, Mind and Soul that I had purchased exactly two years earlier at the Celebrate Your Life conference in Chicago. I could feel that this was the time to read the book. Sunny takes you through an intuitive exercise where you assign each of the seven archangels to a particular day of the week. Then each day you do the readings on that archangel and perform an invocation to invite that being into your day. I experienced peace and a sense of connection with Spirit from the daily exercises which was a beautiful start to my day, but I wasn’t sure I expected anything to ‘happen’ as a result.

I was wrong. I won’t share what transpired on each of the seven days but here are a few examples. On the day I invoked Archangel Uriel, who is known for illuminating situations, I had a morning of almost continuous insights into situations and individuals around me. For Archangel Michael I did the invocation and visualized the protective blue energy around me as instructed. Later on my drive to work, having already forgotten about the exercise, I suddenly saw very clearly in my mind’s eye a large blue bubble traveling directly in front of my car. Then I remembered the invocation and understood that this was a path of protection going before me. Last but not least the very personal message that Archangel Raphiel spoke to me is one I won’t soon forget.

If you feel drawn to learn more about the archangels I highly recommend reading Sunny’s book as a way to begin your own lifelong relationship with each archangel. Try not to have any particular expectations, just open yourself to possibilities and see what comes. If you are used to understanding Your Guides through words there is no reason why you cannot converse in the same way with the archangels. Or your answer could come in the form of a flash of understanding or an image in your mind. If you have not noticed a reply from Them that does not mean that They have not heard you. Spirit ALWAYS hears you.

Even if you don’t read the book, know this. The archangels are real and are always available to help us with matters big or small. But you must ASK for their assistance as They will not intercede without your invitation. Each archangel has special areas of life that They assist with but it is not necessary for you to know and remember what each is responsible for. Simply call on Them collectively for help in whatever challenge or crisis you face. You will not be disappointed.

Belief (Blog from My Guides)

What is belief?  You humans think that to believe is to know something for certain but we say to you that belief is much more than that.  Belief involves knowing in your heart when something is true.  This is much different than knowing with the mind.  The mind wants to question everything; wants proof.  The heart says “I do not need to be shown.  I feel the truth of the matter in my bones and that is enough for me.”

Let us give you this example.  When a young baby cries and the mother says “I know what is wrong.  My baby is hungry” you may say that this is a matter of the mind of the mother knowing the patterns of the child and this can be true also.  But more often it is a knowingness on the part of the mother or what you call mother’s intuition.  Mother’s intuition is nothing more than the soul of the mother touching the soul of the infant.  You do this with each other all the time but do not recognize it.  Here is another example.  You think of a person and then the phone rings and it is them.  These things do not equate to a knowing with the mind but to a knowing with the soul.  Your spirit is much stronger than you think; it knows things you cannot possibly know by any other means.

We tell you these things so that you begin to pay attention to the little details that come to you.  Do not dismiss them.  Encourage them.  If you find that you have an ability to sense the emotions of others you may be an empath; one who absorbs the energy of others to read their mental state.  You must be careful not to do so unawares and take on their emotions as your own.

Belief and your intuitive senses are different sides of the same coin.  If you believe, you will continue to develop your intuitive senses, and likewise, as your connection to Spirit and your intuition strengthens, so does your belief in the reality of the unseen world – what you cannot perceive with your human senses.

In this way what first seemed incredible and impossible becomes the norm.  Knowing more than what others know becomes your way of life.  Soon you find that you solve problems and plot your way forward not with the head but with the heart.  Life becomes a flow of doing what feels right in any given minute whether it is what you had planned or not.  Can you live like this?  Can you truly put yourself in the hands of your own spirit and the spirit of those around you to be guided in an unseen manner?  This is our challenge to you.

How Do You Know if Your Guides are Trying to Communicate with You?

The answer is easy; they always are. You just don’t notice it. That’s because you are too consumed by the day-to-day events in living your life here on the Earth plane. Here is what My Guides had to say about it:

Speaking for all Guides everywhere, we want to tell you that we are ALWAYS waiting for the moment when you notice we are there. Do you know how excited we get when a song comes on the radio that we have sent you as a message, and you pause just for that moment and wonder if there is something more behind the words? There IS. That is us, or perhaps it is one of your deceased loved ones trying to reach you.

The ways that Spirit reaches out are not the ways portrayed in your TV programs. We do not rattle chains and materialize before you to give you a fright. Quite the opposite. We look for the gentle and subtle ways to reach your mind and heart. For example, as we have said above, we often like to come to you through songs. There are different ways we do this. One is to place a song in your head when you are asleep, that comes to the forefront of your mind just as you are waking up. It does not matter if it is a song you heard yesterday or one from many years ago. Do you know all the lyrics? If not, Google them (yes, we said Google; we know your thoughts and your ways you know) and look for the message we have sent you. You will recognize it by the way it feels inside when you reach the key words or phrase. A knowingness will come over you; a resonance with the words and their meaning, and their meaning for you.

Another way we reach you involves sending gentle breezes or drafts of air over you at a time when there should be no breeze. We will never use this means to get your attention when you are outside, but what about when you are in an enclosed room and nowhere near the air vent? Have you ever experienced that?

What about feeling that there was a presence with you even though you were apparently all alone?

And you must have noticed the electronics? The way we can affect electricity to make lights flicker or electronics turn on and off?

These are the ways that we whisper in your ear “We are here. We love you. Let us guide you.”

So what do you do with all this you ask? Give us some time to speak with you. Even if you cannot understand our words we can make our thoughts known to you in other ways. Give us an opening; a time when you are not consumed with thoughts of the day. Meditation is one way but there are others. We like it when you humans are doing repetitive or mindless tasks like driving, for it frees you to receive our impressions.

When something comes to you do not immediately dismiss it. Roll it around in your mind. Is it a natural continuation of a thought you had, or did it seemingly come from nowhere? The latter may be us trying to reach you. Be aware. Develop a discipline in your mind until you can discern that which is you and that which is us. And never, EVER dismiss a thought from your guides without fully considering what has been brought before you. We have planted that thought for a reason; usually to steer you on a more helpful course because we can see the big picture of your life.

We are pleased to have had this opportunity to speak with you. We hope to address you again at some point in the future.

Free Will or Predestination?

Many of you will have struggled, from time to time, with whether your life is a fait accompli or an evolving work in progress.  Do you wonder if you really have control, or if all the shots are decided by someone – or something – else?  Do we really come into this world free to live the life we want, or were those decisions already made for us, our lives playing out in some pre-determined way?

What if I told you it is a little bit of both?  Yes, you had a plan for yourself for this life; things you wanted to experience and accomplish and learn.  But you had no set way to do this.  You came to this world like a child to a playground, open to experiencing and in love with life.  Then the world told you you needed to be like this or like that.  “Be responsible, get a job, earn a good living.”  But what if your life was meant to be so much more than that?  What if the playground is the way life was meant to be?  What if your fondest dreams could become reality and you could live a life that makes your heart sing?

It begins by tapping into your own spirit – who you really are.  I am not talking about the persona you have carried throughout your life or how other people see you.  I am referring to your true essence – who you are inside.

“And how do I find this true essence?” you ask.  It is far simpler than you may think.  Go back to a time that you experienced pure joy or pure love.  What did you really feel in that instant?  Freedom?  Excitement?  That you were truly alive?  And what were the circumstances that led to that moment of illumination?  Were you about to take a leap into the beyond, to try something radically different that you had always wanted to experience?  Or maybe you realized the impact you had had on another person’s life, for the better.  Try to re-capture those memories and really immerse yourself in them.  How did they make you feel?  What was it about the experience that brought your soul to life?  Figuring this out is the first step to making your dreams a reality.  Once you begin to concretely define what motivates and energizes you, you can begin to take steps toward it.

Still not sure exactly what that is?  Then try the reverse of defining what it is not.  Make a mental list of what you do, and don’t, want in the next stage of your life’s journey.  Your Guides know what is in your heart – you do not need to define it for Them, only for yourself to clarify your vision.  Then ask the Universe to help you get there.  Don’t be surprised if opportunities begin to present themselves to you.  Be alert.  Be diligent.  Do not miss a chance to experience what has been offered to you, as this will help you better define where your passions lie.  And you don’t need to see each step of the plan forward.  All you need to do is trust that what you need for your new life will be brought to you in the proper time, in the proper way.

And what happens next?  The Universe begins to unfold as it should.  People, places and opportunities are put in your path, seemingly effortlessly.  Your soul feels more at peace, as it begins to come into its own.  And life takes the most exciting and unexpected turns that you could never have foreseen.  Every day becomes an adventure.

Don’t Forget What You Know

OK, this is embarrassing.

On my last blog I told you all about the importance of meditating daily.  About setting a schedule and just doing it.  About the peace that it brings you as well as the insights and connection to your higher self and Your Guides.

Well, I am here to say that lately I have not been practising what I’ve been preaching.  I admit it – I have entirely fallen away from my meditation practice.

Oh I can come up with reasons for this.  Can’t we all?  Life is busy and that is unlikely to change anytime soon.  But no more excuses.

I see the subtle difference in myself and I don’t like it.  Without my morning meditation no longer do I start my day with that sense of peace and focus on what is truly important to me.  Without that bigger picture I can’t always remain centred when the workday gets crazy or my life is somehow turned upside down.

I haven’t been doing too badly because I have one thing working in my favour.  Since I lost my husband I am no longer that type A person who has to be busy every minute nor do I have constant thoughts and ‘noise’ in my head.  So I am leaving open a window to allow my higher self and My Guides to come through…right?

But what if that isn’t enough?  I think I may just be kidding myself and here’s why: because without a daily practice of meditation I see that I am starting to slowly creep back to my former type A personality.  It happens so subtly that it is hard at first to notice.  Yet, I am recognizing those thoughts that mislead me into taking inventory of whether I have accomplished enough in every day and every moment.  I am forgetting that the contentment of living ‘in spirit’ comes from existing in ‘the now’ of enjoying each moment and allowing life and events to flow the way they are meant to.  As Louise Hay says “I have all the time I need”.  How could I have lost sight of that?

So as much as I have enjoyed this time with you, I am going now to meditate…

Meet Your Guides

You don’t need me to talk to your guides.  You can do it all by yourself.  The best way to get in touch with ‘your team’ is through meditation.

Never meditated?  It’s not that hard.  But it does require a commitment.

Find a quiet place where you will not be disturbed and clear your mind.  Let yourself sink into the silence, relaxing every muscle and going ‘within’.  I won’t give you instructions here; there are more than enough websites explaining different meditation techniques.  The important thing is to establish a practice; set aside a regular time each day, even if it is only 10 or 15 minutes.  Don’t worry if you can’t still your thoughts initially – there will certainly be ‘noise’ when you start.  However, if you persevere the chatter will recede, and the more you practice the easier it will become and the faster you will sink into the silence and peace.

When I first started meditating I couldn’t believe the inner peace it would bring me.  Quickly that evolved into ideas that would float into my mind, or insights into questions I had.  I began to understand and ‘know’ things without understanding how I knew them, yet I recognized the perceptions to be true.  Then it happened.  I felt that something or someone was trying to communicate with me.  While sitting in a closed area of my home I would feel the most gentle breeze caress my face or move over the top of my hand.

For me, the next step involved stumbling onto a website called InfiniteQuest and a function there called ‘Ask the Cards’.  This cleverly designed tool, along with books I read along the way such as Journey of Souls, is what eventually convinced me (oh yes, it took time!) that My Guides do exist and wanted to communicate.

It is very important to be open to the communication; the more you are, the more will come.  Your guides will never force you into anything but with every step you take towards them they will move closer to you.

There are excellent spiritual coaches who can expedite the process of learning to communicate with your guides.  Danielle MacKinnon is one such ‘spiritual director’ who opened a new world to me.  I would highly recommend her expertise for those looking to take the ultimate step of guide communication in a supportive and enjoyable environment.